snippet of tahiry's complex article

Tahiry: Multiple reasons. He said it was nobody's business? That's what he said? 'Cause he said so much. I don't even know. At the end, he just lashed out all out of control.

Complex: What was the biggest deal-breaker for you?

Tahiry: I just feel like ... I'm never going to speak bad about Joey. I love him. Five years. It was a long time. We were just growing apart. We were not in the same zip codes. I just didn't feel like after five years we were building that foundation together. For a long time it was, "Joe, Joe, Tahiry, Tahiry." When it was beneficial, it was Joe and Tahiry. But you know after five years, you're supposed to feel like you're building something. I didn't feel like we were building anything.

Complex: Five years is a long time. Did marriage ever come up?

Tahiry: Of course! We discussed marriage. He's a jokester so I remember one time I said to him, "Dude, what's up? Where's the ring?" I put the big Juicy keychain on and he was like, "We got to size it." He said something like "I only have one album out, I need to put another three then think about marriage." He says to me now, that it was a joke. But we've discussed marriage a few times.

Complex: Did you ever apply pressure on him to commit?

Tahiry: I never gave a date and time. I'm not that girl. I'm not going to apply that pressure 'cause I don't want you to want to get married to me just because you know I want it. You're going to marry me when you're ready.

Complex: Right. So this year, a lot of people have said that you helped Joey be relevant again ...

Tahiry: Really? [sarcastically]

Complex: Would you agree with that?

Tahiry: I won't say that I made him more relevant. I think that people got to know him through his blogs. People got to know a rapper who was on his downtime, who was busy underground, who was busy releasing these digital albums and stuff. I think that the minute he started recording these blogs and then they see this girl and are like, "Oh my god," they're like, "Where has he been?" It's like a combination of things -- getting to know the fun side of him, or how humble and normal he is, and how crazy his Latina girlfriend is. So I think people think we're relatable. I wouldn't say that I made him relevant, per se.

Complex: Did you ever feel exploited?

Tahiry: That's a good question. My mom thinks I was. I enjoyed it. I didn't care. To me, the first time we went on this whole blog thing it was sort of like fun to him. He thought he was onto something. I think it caught us both by surprise. I enjoyed it and I wouldn't change it.

Complex: So it was never like he was using you?

Tahiry: I don't know his intentions. Again, he was my man, we were fine. We were in love. I think that sometimes he went overboard with certain things. Like discussing certain things that you don't discuss online. But all in all, I enjoyed blogging. My life is an open book, I chose it that way, so I can't be mad.

Complex: So, last week your Twitter account got hacked.

Tahiry: Holler!

Complex: There have been rumors that Joe was behind the hacking. He definitely did it?

Tahiry: Mmhm.

Complex: Seems a bit childish. Has he talked to you about that?

Tahiry: Again, a lot of it is out of control. He's dealing with a lot of emotions. It's five years so we're both dealing with our emotions. You know if you've ever been hurt, or if you've ever lost something, or something's just disappeared, or the rug was pulled from underneath you ... if you don't suffer, then you've never loved. People react to that suffering different and we've spoken after that. He's apologized.

Complex: Now, what you just said, the rug was just kind of pulled from under him ...

Tahiry: Listen! I said, "if the rugs been pulled from underneath" ... I didn't say if it was him or me! (laughs).

Complex: Were you guys having problems? Or did it kind of blindside him?

Tahiry: Men and women again, are from different zip codes. You guys understand -- well this is just my opinion -- you guys don't understand with words. You guys understand with actions. I think whatever happened between me and Joey, or the fact that the foundations weren't as stable as they should be, it's probably been happening as a woman, to me for a minute. Did we have happy moments? See the videos. We've had happy moments. By far, it was my best relationship. I've been in maybe two more. I don't ever want to make him out to be a monster. But maybe it was a little shocking to him because, you know, everybody has their own brain, their own world going on.

go pick up the October complex for the rest of the interview.